Overcoming Negative Self-Talk Through Mindful Yoga

In these moments, when the weight of negativity threatens to take over, I remember: I have an anchor. Yoga. I literally fall out of bed and onto my yoga mat. It's not graceful, it's not Instagram-worthy, but it's real. It's my lifeline.

As I sit here, legs crossed on my yoga mat, I can't help but reflect on the journey that brought me to this moment. Not long ago, I found myself trapped in a cycle of negative self-talk, my mind a constant battlefield of self-doubt and criticism. It's time to do something about that. 

The first step is to become aware of the negative self-talk flooding my mind. Notice what's going on without becoming trapped in it.

Take me to:

1. Understanding Negative Self-Talk
2. The Power of Yoga in Reframing Negative Self-Talk
3. Specific Yoga Poses for Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
4. A Complete Yoga Sequence for Self-Compassion
5. Meditation for Self-Compassion (Metta)

Understanding Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk is that persistent inner critic that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or worthy enough. Neuroscience says we're biologically wired to default to negativity as it helped us spot a threat and survive for thousands of years.

It's a habit many of us fall into, often without realizing it. This internal dialogue can significantly impact our mental and physical well-being, affecting everything from our self-esteem to our daily performance.

The Power of Yoga in Reframing Negative Self-Talk

Yoga offers a unique approach to addressing negative self-talk. By combining physical postures, breath work, and mindfulness, yoga creates a powerful mind-body connection.

This connection allows us to observe our thoughts without judgment, creating space between ourselves and our negative inner dialogue. It helps to stop being at war with yourself.

As Dr. Timothy McCall, author of "Yoga as Medicine," puts it, "Yoga helps us witness our thoughts rather than being caught up in them." This ability to step back and observe is the first step in changing our patterns of thinking.

Related: Three science-supported tools to break free from negativity and retrain your brain

Specific Yoga Poses for Overcoming Negative Self-Talk

Let's explore some yoga poses that can be particularly effective in combating negative self-talk.

Heart-Opening Poses

Cobra Pose (Bhujangasana)

• Lie face down on the mat, place hands under shoulders
• Lift chest, keeping lower ribs on the mat, look forward or soft gaze down
• Hold for 5-10 breaths. 

This pose is a gentle backbend that expands the chest and opens the heart. It signals your nervous system "you're safe now" and helps to turn on your restorative, battery-charging mode.

Bridge Pose (Setu Bandha)

• Lie comfortably on your back, knees bent
• Press your feet into the floor, lifting your hips towards the sky
• Interlace your fingers and push your hands into the floor to lift your bridge a little higher, or keep your palms flat and keep a neutral bridge.
• For more relaxation, place a yoga block to support your lower back and let it hold the weight of your bridge completely, arms resting on the floor. 
• Hold for about a minute

Bridge Pose is a fantastic backbend that opens the chest, strengthens the spine, and stimulates the thyroid. It can help alleviate stress and anxiety, making it particularly beneficial for combating negative self-talk.

Grounding Poses

Mountain Pose (Tadasana)

Stand with feet hip-width apart, feeling the steadiness of this posture
Root down through all four corners of your feet
Lengthen spine, relax shoulders
Hold for 5-10 breaths

Mountain pose helps us feel stable and centered, a physical reminder of our inner strength.

Empowering Poses

Warrior II (Virabhadrasana II) - a Yogic version of the Superman pose

• Step feet wide apart, turn right foot out 90 degrees
• Bend right knee over ankle, extend arms
• Gaze over right fingertips
• Hold for a minute, then switch sides

Warrior poses build confidence and inner power, reinforcing your sense of agency and shaking off negative self-perceptions.

Balancing Poses: Finding Stability in Uncertainty

After connecting with our sense of strength with empowering poses, we move to balancing poses. These asanas are powerful metaphors for life – they teach us to find stability amidst chaos and to maintain inner peace in challenging and stressful situations.

Tree Pose (Vrksasana)

Tree Pose is an excellent balancing posture that embodies the essence of self-compassion. It is one of my favorite poses and when you have the time for only one yoga asana - do this one for a quick reset!

As you stand on one leg, rooting down through your foot while reaching up through your arms, you're practicing both stability and growth.

• Stand tall on your left foot, grounding down through all four corners. Feel the steadiness of the surface beneath you.
• Place your right foot on your left ankle, calf, or inner thigh (avoid the knee).
• Bring hands to heart center or reach overhead; fix your gaze on a steady point in front of you.
• Hold for 5-10 breaths, embracing wobbles with kindness; switch sides.

Calming Poses

After energizing and balancing our bodies, we transition to calming poses to soothe our nervous system and integrate positive changes from the practice.

Child's Pose (Balasana)

• Come down to all fours on your mat keeping your knees hip-width, big toes touching.
• Slowly lower your torso between your knees.
• Rest the arms in front of you or by your sides, forming a gentle circle around yourself, holding yourself literally and figuratively speaking.
• Rest and hold for a few minutes. 

Child's pose provides a sense of safety and nurturing, countering self-critical thoughts.

A 30-Minute Yoga Routine for Radical Acceptance

Hey there, fellow overthinkers, overachievers, worriers, and those who are hard on themselves—I see you. This 30-minute yoga routine is specially designed to cultivate self-compassion and self-acceptance, shifting negative or self-critical thoughts into moments of self-care (and, frankly, self-empowerment).

This is a hatha yoga sequence, which means we'll be holding each pose for a bit longer, about a minute (or longer or shorter, depending on how you feel).

As always, listen to your body and adjust as needed. Remember the yogic principle of Ahimsa, or non-violence, toward yourself and others. In the context of yoga, this means exiting a pose at the first signs of discomfort and staying in it only as long as it feels comfortable. It’s essential not to push or overextend yourself—this is very important.

Before we begin, take a moment to glance around your space. Is there anything you can add to make it feel like your personal oasis of calm? Maybe it's a soft blanket, a favorite candle or even just closing the curtains halfway for that soft, cozy lighting. Remember, this is your sacred time to rest and recharge.

The Ambiance

Some of my favorite ways to instantly transport myself into that peaceful place:

• Set the mood by lighting a scented candle or incense.
• Have a cozy blanket and eye mask at the ready for your final savasana.
• For an added touch of self care, dab a few drops of your favorite essential oil on your wrists or temples, infusing the air with a personalized aromatherapy experience.
• Complete your self-care ritual by preparing a soothing cup of your favorite herbal tea to sip & savor after your practice (we love the energizing blend of ginger honey lemon tea.)

The Practice

• Setting intention: (1-3 minutes) Settle into a comfortable cross-legged position on your yoga mat. Take a moment to observe your breath, allowing it to naturally flow in and out.

Now, set your intention for the practice—a brief, positive affirmation that resonates with you. Consider phrases such as:

"I am enough"

"May I be well and cared for"

"I am safe and supported by life"

• Sun Salutations (3 minutes): let's invite a little movement to warm the body with 2-3 rounds of sun salutations.
• Grounding and empowering standing poses (8 minutes):
• Mountain pose
• Warrior I
• Warrior II
• Triangle pose
• Balancing poses (5 minutes):
• Tree pose
• Eagle pose
• Heart opening poses (3 minutes):
• Bridge pose
• Cobra Pose
• Calming seated poses (3 minutes):
• Pigeon pose
• Child's pose
• Final relaxation (5-10 minutes): Savasana

Throughout the practice, focus on your breath and let your intention anchor your mind. When the mind wanders, gently return your awareness to the affirmation and breath. Do not skip the final Savasana - it works wonders for the nervous system.

Related: Best sustainable yoga mats to elevate your yoga practice

Final Thoughts

When you are going through hard times, remember to stay kind to yourself and others around you - no matter what - a lesson I learned through personal struggle. In this spirit, I'd like to share an excerpt from the Loving Kindness Meditation (Mettā Bhāvanā), traditionally taught on the final day of a 10-day course of Vipassana meditation.This practice serves as a soothing balm for the heart and grows your capacity for love and kindness after what's often described as an "open surgery on the mind" during these silent retreats:

May you be happy
May you be healthy
May you be safe
May you live with ease

Try Loving Kindness Meditation after this self compassion yoga sequence.

If you're navigating difficult times, I encourage you to try this practice. I can attest that the combination of yoga and meditation has the power to transform your perspective and nurture inner peace. This too shall pass...

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